Is it possible to love others without losing yourself?
Many of us—especially women who’ve carried so much for so long—have internalized the idea that to be kind, we must be endlessly available.
But what if real kindness includes you?
In this week’s full-length post, I explore what I call selfgentleness in relationships—the subtle, courageous practice of tending to your own needs while staying present in connection with others.
It’s not about withdrawing or closing off. It’s about learning how to pause, notice, and tune in to what’s true for you—before responding, compromising, or giving more.
I share:
Why selfgentleness isn’t selfish (and what it offers instead)
Three simple but transformative daily practices
How to navigate tension without abandoning yourself
What it means to meet others from a place of honesty, not depletion
Because being in relationship doesn’t have to mean being last on your own list.
Be selfgentle,
All love,
Femke
P.S. What if you started with selfgentleness? You can download my free Selfgentleness Guide with 16 practices here: